Advice to new members from long-time resident, and Lollipop Guild member, Maylou

  
I been new a long time..       ...see ...  cause ...things here are ALWAYS alweys changin...  
 
 there only usta be like 3 rooms an prolly about  10 people that really talked.. now ther seems ta be hundreds.. its like a sitty..    ...an dist like in a sitty you gotta get to know people..  BEFORE ya expect them to know you.. member just cause that they been here a long time... and they may know the island like the back of their hand... they dont know yue!  
 
People that have been on the island a long time... still ...are lil kids..  you are dist as NEW to them... as they are to YOU.      
 
so .. ya gotta take your time.. even though ya maybe feel starved for attention...  dont give your whole heart to someone that you dont know.... ITS NOT SMART!   Unka Bobby is my unkab.. an he helps me lern stuff ...an he always says ta me...  "MAYLOU.....  YOUR BIG PERSON IS YOUR BEST AND YOUR FIRST LINE OF DEFENSE... ALWAYS"  
 
If you start your first experiences on the island as a troublemaker that wants to tare things up...or make huge messes...or bully others.. or somehow do damage to either the island or the people on it...  .. people will prolly get a bad impression of you and not wanna play with ya..... just like if you were walking really into someones home..  and started to throw things around... they would be offended.   They are not gonna come up an give ya what your prolly wanting.  They are going to prolly ignore ya.   Nobodie likes to be demanded to do things.  specially to someone that they dont even know...
 
'even if you are doing it for a spanking that you want'... I can almost promise you...it wont work    and ya better watch...  cause some guardians   ahemmm like momabear.. she makes ya do uther stuff that ya dint really wanna do... like write papers bout stuff   an thinka stuff uther ways... an teller..
 
remember.....  there are not alota guardians.. so some of the big kids.. help out like wade an billy an michael and anissa an girl an minxie an well lots of em.. even some of the lil kids help out keepin things smooth like angel an me an sami an well  lots ofem..... and they aint doin it cause they like to play like a big person... they are doin it cause there is a need for people to run and fix stuff cause  kids are doing bad things sometimes..... things just for demanding attention.. an stuff...  so the responsible kids cant be kids like they come here for... they gotta try to keep uther kids from doin bad stuff.
 
just sos ya know...  
 
there are some people like Martha stewart.. and the Gawd-ess that aint guardans neiver.. they dist come out to stop stuff   ...WHEN THEY HAVE TO  ...they will prolly sound really dumb  lotsa times.. or just squelch stuff rite away.   they will NEVER really be a person on the island... for any length of time...  they are for only tempering stuff.  and rick to at ricks cafe...  he's not there all the time neither.. so if they come out an talk toya.. yue know its dist for keepin things in order...    
 
And if you do stuff.. like get a knife and hurt yurself... or if you  pretend like yur on the highest shelf of the cupboard.. or drownin in the ocean...    it will be temperd down to manageable  It may seem like thats not fair... but thats the only way it can work.. the few people that are guardians on the island would be so burnt out if they tried to *BE* what each of us need.  they just would.. member they are people... with limited availability to the island... and have real lives..  
 
 (secretly winkin at unkab..      for sayin *BE*)
 
  
 

  

again its a matter of taking the time to get to know others and let them get to know you first
  
WHEWWWW... takin a big breaf an thinkin.....
 
 
(JUST SO YOU KNOW ... SEVERAL CHILDREN HERE HAVE BIGS ON THE ISLAND AS WELL..  
 
AND SOME  PEOPLE  HAVE MORE THAN ONE CHILD PERSONA HERE TO  
 
SOOOO......DONT BE SURPRISED IF YOU FIND OUT BIG PERSON...  JOE SMOE..  also  HAS A  LITTLE HERE THAT IS  YOUR FRIEND.)  
 
 WHY is that ...you ask??  
 
Weeeeell some of the littles here...  are generus enough to let their big person help on the island to..   So   If that is an issue foryou YOU NEED TO ASK   if/when  you get to know them better...  If they have other persona's on the island...  
 
They WILL tell you... BUT unless you ask... they probably wont mention it.   Not because of secrecy,  but because there is no need... and it does take some of the intrigue  out of the island
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Just like in the city...  Everyone you see isn't going to be someone that you get along with.  Some people are happy just having a few real friends on the island.. thats ok.
 
Remember... even though a big person might come to you and spend a little time with you, or hug you, or kiss your booboos ...    that dont mean that they are gonna adopt you or be special to you...  or adopt any kids for that matter...  or have lots of time to be a guardian... and get kids out of trouble... most of the time they are just being nice and its best to assume that. Rather than they might want to be your guardian.  If they do want that ...in time it will come to pass.
 
 
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Names... I call mosta the adults mr or ms or wat ever ...till I know them an have 'found' my own name for them.. and they ARE what I am calling them  liek Uncle lucky..he is my Uncle.. cause he an me an sami decided it was ok for that..  an he is my uncle ... liek a uncle.. an sami is my cosin.. ..but UNKAB.. he is my gardian.. an so its kina different  but dats wat WE AGREED on..  
 
Aunt tanya she is kina everyones aunt...  but she mite be at a deeper level of that with some kids then others... an   Girl/Lisa  she kina looks out for me..  an we are developin a relashonship ... an Rex.. he does to.. cause we are developin a relashonship.. an billy an well see how it works...  but I been on da islane for a long time  
  
whewwww
 
Unless its agreed on ...nobody is responsible to take care of you...  or spank you or hug you... and if they do..  it maybe that they are trying to show you some attention ... but NOT necissarily 'adopt' you.
 
Because of that fear... a  Lot of guardians are afraid to show much attention at all cause they are worried the kids will try to 'attach' to them.  ...that happens a lot.  so they dont want to hurt ya.  
 
If uther stuff is going on... you gotta read the biggest part of the thread to talk in it... like sometimes.. there are  
 
special arrangements made for special things...  you cant go to a room where something intense is going on.. like a spanking and just JOIN IN..  its not good manners.  
 
like when a guardian makes arrangements to go someplace with a couple of kids... that doesnt mean that anyone can just 'happen' to be in the area
 
the best rule of thumb I have found is... If you want to join in a thread.... that maybe even 'touches' of possibly  being private...just ask in a private message...  IS it ok if I jump into this thread?    
 
If they say no I would rather you didn't its a special/private/personal/ whatever..   dont get your feelings hurt.  just look for a new opportunity someplace elsebut if they say sure come join us... dont just jump in an start re-directing the whole thing... its kind of like ...follow the leader..    
 
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If I was dist starting at being new again... I would say that the best friend you could have is the stuff that has been worked out already and posted  you can find it on the top bar... welcome center  read the stuff there...  its really important to know if your gonna play nice and so you wont get your feelings hurt...    
 
check out...  
 
the TOP BAR...  WELCOME CENTER>
 
all that stuff in there is good to learn with
 
The 5th bar down>OTHER STUFF>SCRAPBOOK
 
that tells about all the people here  to get in there  click on ...
PROFILE and you will see a screen that asks you lots of stuff.. fill it out and when UNKAB can he posts it.
 
You can get notifications of certian posts that you want to follow go right to your own inbox ...it will go to the email  address that yo used to join *even if you mark it as hidden*  
 
go to that thread on the top where it says page look for the words notify of replies... and click on it.. when it asks do you want a notification click yes.  you will get a message in your email box that says there has been a post to that thread.. when you are done watching it go to  the word notifications in the list under the bar list.. click on it do your thing and then save update notifications...  
 
if you want any instant messages to go right to your email address..  
 
front page....top right corner *gold* lettering by your HEY CLYDE you have 1000 messages...  (Where your messages are)  click on your messages... you get a new page...then there is a word..PREFERENCES in *almost* the upper right hand corner...click on it it will take you to an area that says lots of stuff.. in there you can have the  messages sent to your inbox.. there is also a place there where if you DO NOT want to hear from someone on the island you put their username in there and they cannot send you messages...  also if you dont like the messages coming up and telling you that there are new messages waiting for you  you can disable or  Enable Instant Message Popup?:  there  
    
 any gold letterings are 'doors' to other places... ***  if its a name it will take you to their profile
 
to get to your own Island message box..click on the very top where it says your name.. and there is a gold number with the word messages after it ..that number will take you to your island inbox
 
to find out who the members are click on the number of members top right corner its a number and its gold....  that will take you to the members list and some different options for that area...
 
thats all I kin thinka at the moment....  but you need to read the stuff that is in the welcome center...  
 
if there is an area with lots of kids... most of the time you just ASK politely to JOIN them  
 
dont interupt people with remarks that have nothing to do with the posts.  Especially if they dont even know you from Adam..
 
 dont post lookin for a guardian in places that were not meant for that..  
 
and dont just BARGE into peoples bedroooms for goodness sake.. ask.. or knock an dont dist knock an walk in wait for them to anser da door  Even in aunt tanyas parlor an unkabobbys studie.. ya shud still not dist go inder leve a note onna door an they kin call ya in if they feel they want to...  
 
 
Gosh I dono how to write tudoriels...
dats all dat I kin no...rite now..