Who's Whom

One of GI's mottos is "Safety, Healing, Innocence", and it's not a coincidence that "safety" comes first. The Net has been wondrous for allowing people like us to find each other, and form communities of those who understand -- but it's also an inherently and completely UNsafe place. It's the Wild West here, where anyone can come wandering along and claim to be anyone or anything they like.

So while we keep a close eye on what goes on in public, the fact is that we can't know who everyone here really is, or whether they're safe -- and unfortunately, this lifestyle attracts those who're looking for very superficial thrills (and sometimes even darker motivations), who are often very good at appearing to be warm-and-fuzzy in order to cozy up to women for whom they have ulterior motives.

So, even though we want you to relax and feel safe here, we HAVE to remind you regularly that you simply MUST keep your Bigperson nearby in the background while you're here, and you simply MUST not assume that just because someone calls themselves something warm-and-fuzzy, or seems warm-and-fuzzy, they've actually got your best interests at heart.

With that in mind, we strongly advise that you get to know someone over time, and very carefully, no matter who or what they say they are, before trusting them too much with your little heart -- and to aid in that, here are the people who're actually associated with GI, and who have our "Good Sproutkeeping Seal Of Approval":

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UB: I'm Bobby (aka Unka Bobby) and I run the place, and while you don't have to like me, or agree with me about anything, it only makes sense that you at least trust my motives, or else the place really isn't safe for you. I've run GI since 1995, I use my real name here, I've been completely "out" about this lifestyle to my family and friends for all that time (my mother has been known to visit GI!). I'm ecstatically happily married, and have no motives whatsoever beyond wanting to oversee a place where Innerkids can be safe to express themselves, and where we can all talk about ways to help everyone find the kind of fulfillment and happiness that I've found. There are links for sending me Private Messages all over the place, and you're welcome to talk to me about any questions or problems. In particular, any questions, suggestions, or problems related to using GI itself, should go to me, as I'm afraid I handle all the maintenance and upkeep around the place.

The LG: The Lollipop Guild is our little name for the group of moderators who help me keep an eye on GI. You can recognize them by the "LG" appearing on their badges, which appear above everyone's avatar on all their posts.

If someone is a member of the LG, it means that they've been around here for awhile, that I know them well enough to trust their motives, and that I feel comfortable with them keeping an eye on the place when I'm not around. They also have moderator powers, and will act if something inappropriate goes on in public, if I don't see it first. You can trust what they say, as far as I'm concerned.

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Other than that, no one else is officially affiliated with GI, nor represents us, nor has been vetted as "safe" for you to come to. We're filled with some very nice people -- but anyone else you meet is just another visitor who stumbled on us just like you did, so we really have no way of knowing who they are or what their motives are, and if they seem overly-anxious to appear to be an authority figure, then I'd caution you to to go very slowly, and to protect your tenderest heart with the grownup smarts to remember what kinds of people there ALSO are online, in addition to the many wonderful people we do have around here.

You're also welcome to PM me if you have any question about a GI Resident, and I'll let you know what we do, and do not, know about them. After all, SAFETY is the first word in that motto, and that means emotional safety... and that means keeping your Bigperson lurking around in the background of your heart when your littlest side is playing here.